Who Controls You?!

I heard this analogy a long time ago. (for you old timers I heard it from Mack Newton)

You are a baseball player and you are hitting. You step in and the pitcher throws a high and tight fastball. You bail out of the batters box so you don't get hit.
You dig back in and get ready for the next pitch. Same thing: Fastball, high and tight. You bail out.
Now you dig in but this time you move your stance back a few inches off the plate because of the previous two pitches.

The Pitcher just controlled you!! He did something that made you change the way you act.
Now this same process occurs in real life all the time. Someone can say something to you and it creates emotion. You get mad or sad or upset. Guess what they just threw that high fastball and caused you to change.

If someone says something to you and you get upset then you are letting them control you. "You Suck , Your Stupid, Your Ugly, You have no skill, That dude kicked your ass", etc. Now this happens a lot in kids and ego driven young adults.

I can't stand the fact that people I know get "controlled" by others comments or actions that don't actually do anything to them.

So next time you get upset at work or in life STOP and realize that you are giving someone else power to control you/your emotions. If you think about it this way then hopefully you can take the control back by not allowing them to upset you.